Psychosexual and Relationship Therapy
I offer a safe, confidential and non-judgmental space to explore sex, intimacy and relationships.
Taking the first step towards psychosexual therapy can feel daunting. Sex, sexuality and intimacy are deeply personal, and difficulties in these areas can bring feelings of anxiety, shame, frustration or disconnection.
Whether you are experiencing difficulties with sexual functioning, struggling with sexual thoughts or behaviours that feel out of control, or seeking a better understanding of your desires in relationships, therapy offers an opportunity to explore these experiences with curiosity, compassion and without judgement.
How I Can Help
I work with individuals across a wide spectrum of sexual and relationship concerns, helping them understand the underlying roots of their difficulties and develop healthy, fulfilling ways forward.
Areas of support include:
Erectile and Ejaculatory Difficulties: Erection difficulties, performance anxiety, premature ejaculation and delayed ejaculation.
Low Sexual Desire and Desire Differences: Changes in libido, differences in desire between partners, and navigating mismatched sexual expectations.
Performance Anxiety and Intimacy Difficulties: Fear of sexual failure, body image concerns and emotional barriers to connection.
Painful Intercourse and Pelvic Tension: Exploring concerns such as vaginismus and dyspareunia, with medical collaboration where appropriate.
Out-of-Control & Compulsive Sexual Behaviours (often described as Sex Addiction): I support individuals who feel that their sexual thoughts, urges or behaviours - including pornography use, online sexual activity or other sexual behaviours - have become difficult to manage or are affecting their well-being, relationships or taking over their life.
Rather than approaching these experiences through shame or moral judgement, we work together to understand the patterns involved, including the emotional needs they may serve, such as managing stress, coping with difficult feelings or seeking relief. Therapy can help you develop greater choice and control, strengthen alignment with your personal values, and build a healthier relationship with your sexuality.
My Therapeutic Approach
Every individual's relationship with sex and intimacy is unique. My practice is built on an inclusive, holistic foundation designed to ensure you feel safe, heard, and respected throughout our work together.
Trauma-Informed: I recognise how past experiences and relational patterns, including trauma, can influence present sexual wellbeing. We work at a pace that honours your safety and comfort.
Kink and BDSM Affirming: I offer an open, informed space for those engaged in kink, BDSM, or consensual sexual practices. Consensual kink is respected as a valid expression of sexuality and is never pathologised or assumed to be part of a problem.
Sex-Positive and Non-Judgemental: My focus is on helping you understand your values, desires, and boundaries free from guilt, shame, or external expectations.
Gender, Sexuality, and Relationship Diversity (GSRD) Inclusive: I welcome individuals and partners of all sexual orientations, gender identities, and relationship structures (including monogamous, non-monogamous, and polyamorous dynamics).
What to Expect
Psychosexual therapy is entirely talk-based - there are no physical examinations or physical contact in sessions.
In our initial consultation, we will explore what brings you to therapy, your history, and what you hope to achieve. From there, we work collaboratively, combining self-awareness, practical strategies, and emotional insight to help you achieve greater clarity, well-being, and fulfillment in your life.
Qualifications and Professional Standards
Professional membership: I am a student member of the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT) and am committed to working in accordance with the ethical and professional standards applicable to my practice and training.
Postgraduate Clinical Trainee: I am currently undertaking my advanced postgraduate clinical training in Psychosexual and Relationship Therapy, ensuring my work is grounded in contemporary research, up-to-date clinical methodologies, and regular, rigorous supervision.
NHS Experience: I currently work within an NHS sexual difficulties clinic in Surrey.
Qualifications and Professional Standards
If you are considering psychosexual therapy, you do not need to have all the answers before reaching out. Whether you have a specific concern or simply want to understand yourself and your relationships better, we can begin by exploring what feels most important to you.
If you have any questions or would like to discuss working together, please feel free to get in touch.
Get in touch
Send me a message on the below contact form for more information, or to ask about booking an appointment. Alternatively, you can email me on jon@thecontemporarytherapist.co.uk
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